Are you a nag?

As you may know, I’m a Mom.  My daughter is in middle school and my son will begin high school in September – oh my!  The morning routine was driving me batty for a few months.  All I was doing was saying to them, ‘move along’, ‘you should be brushing your teeth by now’, ‘you need to leave in 30 minutes, 10 minutes, 5 minutes . . . ’, and the list goes on and on.  I felt like I really couldn’t do anything else because I needed to be available to ‘nag’ and move them along.   You see, my children like to move in slow motion.  I had to encourage and remind them to focus on getting ready to leave the house.  I got to a point that I was DONE with this scenario.  It was unacceptable!  I didn’t like who I was showing up to be for my children (and for myself as well).  Something had to change.  

Honestly, I didn’t know how to handle the situation right away, but I knew change was absolutely necessary for everyone’s sanity.

This was the change . . . .

First of all, I created an intention to have a smooth, simple morning routine for my children to leave for school on time.

Next, I realized my children are obviously old enough to understand what needs to be done and what time they need to leave for the school bus.  I changed my thinking at this point.  I chose to give them the responsibility to get out of the house on time.  I was not responsible anymore.  They were.  I chose this time to workout instead of nag.

The next step I took was to check in with my feelings.  I felt this was a smart choice for me and my children.  The idea of being done with a workout at home before they even left the house felt great.

The last step was to take action and that’s what I did! I began to exercise at home as they were getting ready for school.  Before I began, I told them I was going to be busy working out, the current time, and to ‘move along’ (just this one time).

The new routine went really well.  I didn’t nag, the children were not nagged and the children made it to the school bus stop on time.

These are the steps I went through – set a new intention, changed my thinking, checked in with my feelings, and took action.  The result is:  I started my day feeling fantastically fit with a clear head and my children made it to the bus stop on time, without the drudgery of nag, nag, nag, nag, nag.


Now it’s your turn.  Where in your life can you set a fresh, new intention?  Once you’ve got that intention, are you up for the changes?  I know you can do this.

  1. Change your thoughts to be in synch with your new intention.
  2. Check in with your feelings, an change if necessary, to be in synch with your intention.
  3. Take action.

Please share with us how you will apply this in your life.